Look For the Helpers

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How many times have you heard someone say “I have lost all faith in humanity?” How many people yearn for the “good old days” of people helping people instead of the egocentric, self-serving examples of human action that we see far too often in today’s world? Sometimes it seems like we are alone in this life, with very few people who are willing to help in a time of need, willing to sacrifice their own time for the good of others. Sometimes it seems like there is very little “good news” to be found. And then there is this last week.
As the fires in BC rage on, tens of thousands of people have been forced from their homes, sometimes on very short notice and leaving with minimal supplies to head to neighboring communities, hoping to find a bed or a place to park. Being evacuated from your home, disrupting your family, your job, your life – not knowing when you can go back or if you will even have a home to go back to, has to be an incredibly stressful time. In times of tragedy, Mr Rogers once famously said to “Look for the helpers – you will always find people who are helping”. This past week one certainly does not have to look very hard to find them, and the people stepping up to help have left me to sit here in a state of disbelief – quite frankly I am in awe.
In the recent days we have seen people open up their homes and yards to displaced families, taking in strangers without any expectations of compensation; Taking them in simply because they needed somewhere to stay. We have seen campgrounds open their gates, waving fees and organizing food drives for people with RVs. We have seen hotels offer free or deeply discounted rooms for other evacuees. Restaurants, pubs and catering services have also come on board with offers to help those in need. Child minding businesses have offered free daycare for children who have had to leave their homes behind.
Pets and livestock from the affected areas have not been forgotten, with literal heroes driving into danger with trailers, hauling horses out to safety, setting up areas to keep them and dispersing literal tonnes of donated hay out to feed them. Shelters began to pop up for smaller pets as well, with dogs, cats, birds and other loved animals being fostered or looked after by volunteers, with food and supplies being donated by pet stores and other animal loving people.
As the most basic human requirements of food and shelter are being taken care of, even more people jumped in with offers to help make the evacuees stay a little more comfortable – Laundry services have been donated, Hair and beauty salons are offering free haircuts and styles to the evacuees, Gyms have offered the use of showers and equipment and delivery companies have been taking donated goods and foods to areas as needed – again for no charge.
We have Mobile mechanics and Mobile tire repair people out and about, fixing peoples vehicles so their cars and trucks are available to them, many times using parts and services donated from other (potentially competitive) businesses. We have people loading up their trucks with fuel and heading out on the highway, topping up anyone who has been caught between gas stations without enough in the tank to make it to their destination. We have people setting up road side stands, offering free snacks and drinks to weary travellers that have been on the road for many hours. We even have mobile septic companies travelling around to empty the tanks of people who are staying in their RVs in areas with no available sani-dump.
We have seen individuals from other Provinces load up trailers with food, clothing, water and fuel and drive for hours, or even days to get to the evacuations centers and distribute these goods. Some of these people travelled from areas such as Fort McMurray, who knows the horrors of a fire and evacuation all too well and perhaps still have not fully recovered from the events of last summer – yet they are finding the time and energy to head West and help others.
Radio and television crews, news teams and on air personalities have cancelled holidays and thrown the shift schedules out the window, working endlessly to bring us up to date and accurate information about the fires, the evacuations, the alerts and the highway closures.
And then there are the front line people – I honestly could write a book on these people who already work to protect us on a day to day basis and are now stretched to the breaking point, working tirelessly to save lives and save towns. The countless volunteers at the check in centers for the evacuees. The Firefighters, RCMP officers, Search and Rescue members, Armed Forces, Ham radio operators, Volunteer fire departments, Paramedics, First responders, traffic control – the list goes on and there really is not much left to be said but THANK YOU ALL.
I am sure I am overlooking other examples and if you feel left off of this list I am truly sorry, there are no intentional omissions in this little dissertation – I merely wish to point out how humbled I am by the groundswell of goodwill we are witnessing. You make me proud to be a part of this community, you make me proud to be a part of this Province and you make me proud to be a part of this Country.

Oh Canada!

What I really want for Fathers Day

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As it’s June now and us dad’s have our big day fast approaching, I thought I would take a few moments and write a wish list for my girls for father’s day.  I know I can be hard to shop for and sometimes finding the perfect gift is difficult so this handy little guide should make your life easier.    First off I want you to be happy.  Continue to follow your dreams.  Continue to push your limits and continue to amaze me at every turn.  You have all become such extraordinary young women that you leave me in astonishment every day.  You are all destined for great things and I cannot wait to see you fulfill your dreams.  Don’t let anything or anyone stop you.  Next, of course, I want you to be healthy.  I know as young adults it’s easy to get sidetracked and perhaps not eat as well as a person could but please try.  Trust me when I say that the day will come when you will regret poor eating habits.  Finally, please forgive me if I’ve ever done anything that has seemed less than 100% in full support of you and your ambitions.  I’ve never claimed to be perfect and I have tried my hardest to do what I’ve believed to be best for you.  If I’ve failed at any portion of this it was absolutely not intentional.

P.S. – I know that as life happens we all end up moving and living farther apart from one another but whenever possible, please humour me with our annual attendance of the father’s day show and shine.  I realize that wandering around sweating in the hot sun with a giant crowd of people, looking at cars that you don’t particularly care about, is not likely that high on your “fun” scale  but trust me – this is truly one of the highlights of my year.    Oh yeah, I absolutely love the gifts and cards that you make for me too… *hint hint*

 

We all have burdens to carry

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Picture yourself standing in a large room filled with 1000 other people, and anyone who has ever lost their job is asked to sit down.  Now anyone who has had a divorce or bad breakup, if they would please sit down as well.  Maybe you have a sick child that kept you up all night, or worse, a seriously sick child with no cure?  You can sit down too. Anyone with an elderly parent or grandparent whose health is failing can also sit down. If you yourself are sick or are having medical issues, sit down too. Of course if you have been diagnosed with a chronic or terminal illness go ahead and take your chair.  Perhaps you live with chronic pain?  Sit.  Custody battle?  Please take a load off.  Bankruptcy?  Here’s your seat. Have you ever lost a good friend far too young?  Maybe a family member has passed before their time?  You guessed it – sit. Now, look around the room and tell me how many people are still standing. I am betting ZERO.  Including you. 

Think about this the next time you find yourself upset with someone who is being rude, or who messed up your order in drivethru, or simply cut you off in traffic:  Everybody has a history and if you have only one brief, fleeting encounter with that person you have no way of knowing what’s happened in their life to get them to that moment. I have seen the sweetest, most caring people in the world find themselves in a low place from time to time and I guarantee that if you only met them at that point in their life you may not realize how special that person really is.  They say you should walk a mile in someone else shoes, but you really don’t need to – just remember that EVERYONE has some pretty heavy shoes to wear once in a while.

Please share if you think we could use a little more empathy in this world.  😊

The important things

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background:  Recently my brother in law and his wife gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.  This little bundle of joy gave us all a scare by deciding to come into the world prematurely, resulting in some hectic road trips and unintentional hospital stays.  Some of you may know that 21 years ago our daughter was also born premature and put us through some adventures before coming home too so we had a pretty good understanding of what the parents were going through.  This is a little bit different for the blog, but the following is the letter I wrote to them and I have been asked to share it here. Little baby Lincoln  is doing wonderfully. 😊

“I remember when our little Kirsten was born early.  She was also right around 5 pounds and her little lungs also weren’t quite up to the task of being called into service ahead of schedule. I remember the absolute joy of seeing her for the first time, quickly followed by the anguish of having her whisked away from us. I had no idea what the next few months would bring:  victories that brought tears of joy followed by setbacks that made me scream “why??”.  Emergency flights to Vancouver.   The unbearable heartache of being sent home for Christmas without being able to bring her with us.  The helpless feeling knowing that I had to put all of my hopes and dreams in the doctors hands.  I remember the pain of watching her in a little oxygen chamber, unable to hold her, unable to make it all better.  As a parent it feels like your only job is to make your baby safe, and here I stood on the very first day, the very first shift of my new task and I couldn’t do it.  I was helpless.  I was failing at the only job that mattered at that point.  But it turns out I wasn’t failing.  Just staying strong and believing that everything would be alright was it’s own victory.  The job description had temporarily changed for a while is all.  And when that little ray of sunshine does break free of the clouds she will shine brighter than you ever imagined possible.
Wishing you all the best and know that we are here for you guys for anything you may need.
Love Marty”